
Updated September 2025
All of us over a certain age have witnessed the internet grow up over the past 25-odd years and, quite frankly, it’s all been a bit of a car crash, hasn’t it?
What started off as a goal to make the sum of all human achievement available to all has turned into everyone shouting at each other, all at the same time. Yet somewhere in all this chaos, the smartest businesses have figured out something important. The organizations winning today are the ones that still remember how to have actual conversations.
The great democratization experiment
Remember when having a website meant hiring a team of developers and spending telephone-number money? It was a time when only big brands could afford to play online. They treated the internet like a fancy brochure. The same corporate voice, the same content, the same one-way communication they’d always used in other media, such as TV or print.
Then everything changed.
Suddenly, web hosting stop costing the same as your mortgage. CMS software such as WordPress made publishing fast and easy, and anyone could have a voice. Personal blogs started outranking corporate websites on search engines. Reviews from people like you and me carried more weight with buyers than million-dollar ad campaigns. We entered what you might call the “my cousin knows a guy” era of authority.
This shift caught everyone off guard because we’d never seen something like this before. Buyers stopped trusting polished corporate messages and started trusting real people sharing real experiences. A food blogger reviewing kitchen equipment could influence more purchasing decisions than the manufacturer’s entire marketing team.
But with great power, comes great responsibility, right? Well, unfortunately not in this case. The thing is, when everyone has the ability to publish content, the vast majority of what gets published is absolute crap. Today all of us are drowning in a vast sludge of mediocre content that nobody particularly wants to read, watch, or engage with.
Why most content feels like wallpaper
Perch on the shoulder of the average person (I’m talking figuratively, of course) and see how they scroll through content, websites, social media, eCommerce, whatever. Most webpage visits last about 15 seconds. More than half of those visitors will never come back. This isn’t because we’re inherently less interested in things. We’re just constantly overwhelmed by the deluge of mediocrity. Every day brings thousands of emails, social posts, articles, and ads, most of which feel generic and irrelevant.
What most people really want is someone to do the heavy lifting for them. They want curation, filtering, and organization that makes sense for their specific situation. They want less stuff, but better stuff.
Firstly, we need to acknowledge that “personalization” is a hall of a lot more than dropping someone’s first name into an email subject line or showing them ads for products they looked at yesterday. That’s not personalization. That’s just basic database queries with a marketing budget.71% of consumers expect “personalized” interactions, but what they’re referring to is they want businesses to understand their own, individual, actual situation. When someone’s researching project management software for example, they don’t just want to see more software options. They want someone to understand why they’re looking in the first place.
Maybe their team is constantly missing deadlines. Maybe their boss is breathing down their neck about efficiency. Maybe they’re spending weekends trying to catch up on work that should have been manageable. Effective marketing addresses such underlying frustrations, not just the surface-level product search.
How psychology beats algorithms
Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte-Taylor says, “We like to think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel. But in reality we’re feeling creatures that think.” Such thinking is the main driver behind behavioral science and buyer psychology and fundamentally changes the way personalization should work.
When someone spends time comparing different accounting software options, the logical response is showing them feature comparisons and pricing charts. But the psychological reality might be that they’re terrified of making the wrong choice and looking incompetent in front of their colleagues. Businesses excelling at personalization generate 40% more revenue than their competitors, largely because they’ve figured out how to address both the logical and emotional aspects of decision-making.
The curation economy
OK, so hopefully we can all accept we’ve moved from an era of content scarcity to content abundance, and that all this abundance has creates its own problems. The real value now lies in filtering, organizing, and presenting the most relevant information to specific people at the right time.
But algorithmic curation feels cold and mechanical. Amazon’s “people who bought this also bought that” works fine for books or records. But it fails miserably when we’re trying to solve complex business problems. The difference is context and genuine understanding of what matters to specific individuals. The difference between a sommelier’s wine recommendation and your local grocery store’s “popular items” section are world’s apart. While it may be true that they both involve selection, only one demonstrates an actual understanding of your preferences, budget, and the occasion you’re planning for.
Marketing automation platforms and customer data systems can process enormous amounts of information and identify patterns mere mortals would never find in a month of Sundays. They can tell you that someone visited your pricing page five times, downloaded three whitepapers, and opened your emails consistently.
But what they can’t tell you is why that person is hesitating to make a decision. What underlying concerns are keeping them up at night. Which internal politics might be complicating their purchasing process. Marketing automation delivers an average ROI of $5.44 for every dollar invested, but the organizations seeing the highest returns are using technology to handle routine tasks while reserving the important strategic decisions for human judgment.
Why understanding beats optimization
The central challenge of marketing in the age of online, is needing to build individual relationships with thousands or millions of people simultaneously. Traditional relationship-building doesn’t scale, but mass communication that treats everyone identically doesn’t work either. The solution lies in understanding that real personalization, what I prefer to call individualization, is fundamentally about demonstrating care. When someone receives a message that thoughtfully addresses their specific situation, they interpret it as evidence that your business actually understands and cares about their needs.
Over time, this perception creates an emotional connection, which drives loyalty and word-of-mouth referrals. 75% of consumers prefer buying from companies that recognize them personally and understand their purchase history and preferences.
As individualization technology becomes cheaper and more accessible, competitive advantage won’t come from having the most sophisticated tools. It will come from the quality of human insight applied to those tools. Businesses that invest in truly understanding the psychological and emotional drivers behind buying decisions will create more compelling experiences than those obsessing over algorithmic optimization. They’ll win because they remember that behind every data point is a person dealing with real challenges, pressures, and aspirations.
When a business consistently demonstrates this level of understanding, customers develop loyalty that survives competitive pricing and flashier alternatives. Switching to a competitor means having to start that relationship building stuff all over again, which most people would rather avoid.
The signal in the noise
The businesses thriving in today’s attention-deficit environment have figured out how to cut through the noise by speaking directly to individual human needs and concerns. They succeed not because they send more messages or use fancier technology, but because their messages feel relevant and helpful rather than generic and promotional. They’ve remembered that marketing’s fundamental job is connecting human needs with solutions that genuinely improve people’s lives.
Everything else is just digital noise. And we’ve already got plenty of that.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Gee Ranasinha is CEO and founder of KEXINO. He's been a marketer since the days of 56K modems and AOL CDs, and lectures on marketing and behavioral science at two European business schools. An international speaker at various conferences and events, Gee was noted as one of the top 100 global business influencers by sage.com (those wonderful people who make financial software).
Originally from London, today Gee lives in a world of his own in Strasbourg, France, tolerated by his wife and teenage son.
Find out more about Gee at kexino.com/gee-ranasinha. Follow him on on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/ranasinha or Instagram at instagram.com/wearekexino.
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